When I was young and dreamy, I imagined my knight in shining armor coming to take me to start a beautiful life together. Without a doubt, love is the most powerful and influential emotion that changes lives and transforms people. We are all made of nothing but love and we are constantly looking to find someone who resonates with our energy. And when that commitment turns into a lifetime promise in the form of marriage, life is sure to change. Being a girl from a close-knit family of 5, it was hard to leave my home after years of cocooning in my parents’ shadow. Life changes after marriage, and I know all girls do.
I was a very sensitive and vulnerable person who found the idea of marriage very intimidating. Fortunately, I found my man and saw in him everything I had been looking for for years after failed relationships. That said, saying “yes” to marriage was always difficult. Now that I have moved into a new house with a new family, I do my best to respect new people and values.
Your values may differ from theirs, but it’s important to stay open to learning new perspectives while staying true to your roots. About 3 weeks have passed since my big day. I may not be a pro right now at sharing words of wisdom on how to balance new relationships and changes, but here are some takeaways from a beginner who wants to grow and heal in love. Thanks to this, I hope for other new brides, post-wedding changes will feel much easier and lighter.
How to deal with changes after marriage
1. Accept the changes
We all dread the changes in life that come with marriage. We fear losing our identity, our freedom, our ways of life, and the list goes on. We must remember that change is the only constant in life. And being smart, go-getter, educated women, we must learn to express our values to our partners and new family members so that they learn to respect them. Turn your fears and insecurities (how to deal with insecurities) into your strength to strengthen yourself in your new relationships. Embrace the changes with love, humility, and aplomb, and nothing new will seem intimidating.
2. Respect differences
When two different people meet, bound by the promise of staying together to build a good life, differences are inevitable. But you shouldn’t let these differences demotivate you. Instead, learn to work as a team to build something strong and valuable. It’s always you two against the problem and not against each other. Just as you want to learn to love in the right way, you also need to learn the art of dealing with conflict in a healthy way.
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3. Make relationships a priority
When you enter a new home environment, you are new to almost everything. Use this initial time to get to know your new family and new partner by spending as much quality time with them as possible. Learn new things about them and make it a point to gather around the dining table for your day’s meals. In the passion to go about your business,
4. Love is all you need
Remember that love can conquer all. Where there is love, nothing can discourage your spirit or stand in your way as you go through life facing certain difficulties. Always choose to focus on the positives and continue to nurture love romantically and otherwise to adapt to changes after marriage. What you feed always grows. So stop stopping to grow and heal in love.
5. Accept more, expect less
It’s important to have your mode of acceptance and have lower expectations of new people and life. Let life flow naturally in its own way and learn to be in the flow if you want to make stronger connections. Having expectations will only disappoint you.
