No matter how much you love your partner, there will be times when you will have arguments. But when things heat up and you end up yelling or yelling at your partner, it can destroy the love you have for each other. Yelling at your partner can shut them up and make the situation worse because it removes any possibility of communication. You need to be careful and know how to communicate with your partner when you are angry. Of course, without yelling or yelling!
HealthShots reached out to psychologist Dr Malini Saba, who explained how to talk to your partner when you’re mad at them.
She says it’s important to remember that you are a team and not every issue should be approached as a competition. Speak to them regularly, kindly and directly about what makes you angry, says the expert. To make the relationship work, communicate with your partner when you’re angry with them and try to find long-term solutions that work for both of you (how lack of communication affects your relationship).
Tips for Communicating with Your Partner When You’re Angry
Anger can often make a bad situation worse, so when you’re angry at your partner, approach the situation with a level head (ways to calm your anger during a fight with your partner).
1. Find the source of your anger
Is your partner’s specific habit testing your patience or are you just having a bad day? Understand exactly what makes you angry, then communicate clearly about it. It’s important that your partner knows what triggered your anger.
2. Be specific and solve the problem
There’s no point giving hints or yelling at your partner. Be specific about what hurt you in the first place.
3. Speak softly and kindly
Yelling can often make the situation worse. Yelling at your partner can cause further damage to the situation and possibly hurt them as well. So speak softly and articulate, suggests Dr. Saba.
4. Be open to discussion
It’s not just about you and your anger issues. Understand their point of view and approach the problem with a problem-solving approach. Be open to their suggestions and where they come from. Understand what they have to say or why they did what they did.
5. Don’t be passive-aggressive
The punitive approach or passive aggressive behavior does no one any good. This doesn’t solve the problem and may stress you out, so be direct.
6. Adopt a solution-based approach
Understand that it’s not you against them, it’s both of you against the problem you’re facing. So approach the situation accordingly.
7. Take time to collect your thoughts
Tense emotions can sometimes cause you to overreact or express your anger in a negative way. Take the time to sort out your thoughts before talking to your partner if the situation is overwhelming.
8. Talk to an anger management professional
If you are unable to manage your anger or if there is a specific problem between you and your partner, seek professional help to resolve the issues.
